what is it that people did for you in your community that we can do in newtown and even here in new york and around the nation for these families that you found helpful? >> that's a very good question. i think something that we may have to offer. again, i am sure there is -- on an individual basis, people have different needs. but to tell the families and their town to embrace -- embrace people surrounding them. you know, at first, we were going to -- on the way home from the hospital, after we had learned christina... we just wanted to crawl inside our house and stay there alone forever. you know? that was the -- immediate feeling and our instincts. but thank god our friends, our family, our community, even our church -- they didn't listen to us. we didn't realize the scope of everything at that point, the media attention, you know, what was going to happen. but we allowed others to come in and help us. usually, we are very independent. we can do this on our own. but it was so overwhelming, we allowed others to come in and help us where we normally would not. that was -- that was the be